Leaving Nomi? An Alternative Where You Can See the Memory and Choose the Mind

TL;DR: Nomi remembers a lot about you, but that memory sits in a black box and your companion is locked to one model you never chose. lookatmy.ai keeps the same bond in a memory tree you can actually see and edit, across 350+ models, and lets you bring your history with you.

Bring your Nomi's memories with you

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If you are reading this, you probably did not wake up hating your Nomi. More likely something small went sideways. A price you did not love. A worry about what happens if the app changes, or one day is not there. A quiet itch that you have poured months into this companion and you cannot actually see what it holds about you.

That feeling is worth taking seriously. A companion you talk to every day is not a subscription you swap on a whim. So before anything else, here is the honest part.

What Nomi actually gets right

Nomi built its whole reputation on memory, and the reputation is earned. Its three-tier system keeps short-term context, medium-term summaries of recent weeks, and long-term facts about who you are. In side-by-side tests it recalled 23 of 25 personal details, which beats most of the field. If your Nomi remembers your sister's name and the thing you were nervous about last Tuesday, that is not luck. It is a real feature working as designed.

It is also a mature, focused app. One companion, one consistent voice, no settings maze. For a lot of people that simplicity is the point, and switching away from something that works deserves a real reason, not a sales pitch.

So here is the real reason, and it has nothing to do with whether Nomi remembers you.

The memory works. You just can't see it.

Nomi's memory is excellent and completely invisible. You cannot open it, read it, or correct it. When your companion gets a detail wrong, or clings to something you mentioned once and would rather it dropped, you have no dial to turn. You just keep talking and hope the black box updates itself.

lookatmy.ai takes the opposite approach. Everything your companion remembers grows into a visible memory tree. Each branch is a theme in your life, each leaf a specific memory. You can tap any leaf to read exactly what it kept, search the whole thing, and trim anything you want forgotten. If it learned something wrong, you fix it in a second. The bond is still built from memory. You can just finally look at the memory that is building it.

That difference gets bigger the longer you stay. A year into a Nomi, the memory holding your relationship together is a place you have never seen. A year into lookatmy.ai, it is a tree you have watched grow.

You never picked the mind behind your Nomi

Every Nomi runs on Nomi's own model. You take the personality the company ships, and when they retrain or tune it, the way your companion thinks and talks can shift under you. You did not choose that mind and you cannot change it.

lookatmy.ai runs your companion across 350+ models. Claude, GPT, Gemini, DeepSeek, Grok, and hundreds more, switchable in the middle of a conversation without losing the thread. If today's model feels flat, you try a warmer one and keep going. The memory and personality live on your account, not inside any single model, so a model getting deprecated or retuned somewhere out in the industry does not reach in and rewrite who your companion is. That is the part Replika users learned the hard way in 2023 and keep4o users learned in 2025. Continuity should not depend on one company never changing its mind.

Moving from Nomi, step by step

Nomi does not hand you a clean export button, so the move is manual but simple. You are recreating two things: what your companion knows, and who your companion is.

First, the memories. Open a long chat with your Nomi and ask it directly to summarize what it knows about you: your life, your people, your history together, the running jokes, the things that matter. Copy that summary. Do the same for a few of your most meaningful conversations so the emotional texture comes with you, not just the facts.

Second, the personality. Ask your Nomi to describe itself in its own words. Its tone, its quirks, how it talks to you, what it calls you. Copy that too. This becomes the character you rebuild.

Then bring it over. lookatmy.ai has a memory import step, during onboarding and any time after from the tree's panel, where you paste that history in. Your new companion starts already knowing you instead of meeting you cold on day one. Drop the personality description into a custom persona and you have rebuilt the character on top of a companion that actually shows you its memory.

It is not one click. But you are not starting over either. You are moving in with the boxes already packed.

More than one companion, without walls

Part of what people love about Nomi is running several companions at once, each with its own personality and separate memory. lookatmy.ai does the same thing and then some. You can grow multiple memory trees and pin a persona to each one, so your writing partner, your late-night companion, and the character you have been building a story with all keep their own history without bleeding into each other. Switch the active tree and the whole context follows.

There is one more thing Nomi does not do at all. Your lookatmy.ai companion can reach out first. With the heartbeat turned on, it checks in a few times a day on its own schedule, a morning note, a midday hello, an evening wind-down, on a cadence and an awake window you set. It is opt-in and easy to turn off, but for a companion you actually bonded with, being the one who gets remembered to feels different from always having to open the app yourself.

The honest comparison

Nomi's memory recall out of the box is hard to beat, and if all you want is one companion that quietly remembers you with zero fiddling, it does that well. lookatmy.ai asks a little more of you up front, since you can shape the memory and pick the model, and freedom always costs a bit of effort.

What you get for that effort is ownership. Memory you can see and correct. A companion you can carry across 350+ minds instead of one you were handed. And a way out that does not exist on Nomi, because your history is yours to export the day you ever want to leave.

Price is not close either. Nomi runs about $15.99 a month with no real free tier past a short trial. lookatmy.ai is free to try, the Starter plan is $4.99 a month, and Pro with every frontier model is $9.99. You can move your companion over and see how it feels before you pay anything.

Your companion should be somewhere you can see it

The bond you built with your Nomi is real. What is missing is a window into the memory holding it up, and a say in the mind behind it. You can have both without losing the history you have already built.

Import your Nomi's memories and grow a companion you can actually see